Merry still 23 days till Christmas

Well bite me I don't have a Christmas calendar (in fact indeed I haven't had any in the last 4years) and I was seriously considering getting one today just because everyone has one.. Well maybe tmrw or not because I used to get it from my mom and obviously she's not sending me one here to Finland even when I used to live only 200km away she gave me on Christmas eve.. So in that case I had it the last 4 years as well whenever I arrived home from Pécs/Helsinki. This year I don't know yet I should ask her if she got one for me too or should I get my own here but then it's not the same it would feel sad buying my own calendar..
The other thing is Advent sorry but I don't celebrate that either because the only thing I know about that that there are 4candles and each Sunday you have to lit one more.. Great. No thank you. And I felt weird when yesterday some people wrote me happy advent because I was like oh I didn't even know it was..
And just to keep it coming today the happy first of December.. What the hell is that good for? I understand merry Christmas and happy new year but besides that you can tell me happy birthday during the summer. Those I know anything else is weird.
Well it might be also that I'm not excited about this whole holiday spirit because don't like Christmas at all. That actually makes sense why I don't know these dates..but I don't wanna be rude so happy first of December everyone especially in the USA idk who are you peeps reading my blog..

I feel like I have to write about this.
Something is bothering me and I can't get over it. I really hope it's just temporary because I really don't want to end up like in highschool that nobody likes me and nobody invites me anywhere.
It might be that I'm stupid or overreacting this situation, but I didn't get invited tonite to the "girl's night out". Which ok let me explain from the one hand it's totally understandable because I sort of on an agreement with one of them that she doesn't want to hang out with me but we're still friends (?? well I know her reasons fine. I'm totally trying to respect it) On the other hand however I would love to hang out with the others and as far as I know I didn't give any reason not to hang out with them..
So I'm on the edge of the state when I don't know if they hate me or not and I really hope I'll be able to go out with them because I really don't want to end up being alone. It feels really shitty. And to be honest this was the very first time that I'd have friends who are my classmates.
Well I guess sorry for whining about this 1st world problem..

again

I just can't understand what's happening inside me. My feelings I mean. Because in theory I'm super smart and I know that I should just stop having feelings for Beany (I made up a name now so that I can refer more easily while writing). I mean it is just taking away too much energy from me mentally mostly so that I can't focus on things. And what doesn't help on the situation that Beany acts very very bipolar e.g. in school I'm the last person to talk to and constantly I'm avoided and then if we see us later on outside of school settings then I can be a sort of friend. (yes I said sort of because I'm not sure anymore if I'm being hated or not). And I have this constant need to write/snap chat Beany. And off the amount of replies -because most of the time I'm not sending anything finally- sometime I just think that Beany hates me or just very much dislikes well f.it its too late I can't even see what I'm writing hopefully full of typos..

my life my time it's me

Today I reached a point when I felt that I'm out of my comfort zone so I just rushed home from the bar.
But before talking about that I have to mention a couple of things first.
So now that I had an exam last week that I still don't know if I passed or not we started a new course which is super interesting and useful but then again partly in Finnish. And I don't mean the Finnish course that's obviously in Finnish and also I have to make a 15 min presentation about a social services related topic.. will see..
But the human rights part of the course is totally in Finnish and we only got instead of the tons of material that the Finnish people can understand only one pdf file/topic.. so it's shitty because I'm super interested in all sort of human rights related topics but it's just super hard to understand/translate them to English so that I can actually understand..
So that was already a thing that started pissing me off since Tuesday. Finally at least the questions for the essays one of my classmate translated so that was nice.
But then today we had a team meeting at 11am and I was planning on getting up at 8,30 to write the 1st topic and to wash my hair but instead I slept back somehow and woke up at 10.13 which meant that I had only 10 min to get ready and so i couldn't do any of the planned stuff, And the in the evening 3 of my classmates had a combined birthday celebration in a bar where I didn't wanted to go because I wanted to just stay home write my papers and watch some shows.. but then I went because I felt even though I knew nobody gives a damn about me when I'm there it's still polite to go. But I was feeling all the time that I just wanna get home and finally after 4 hours I just stood up and said politely have fun and bye.. But then probably it was a bit awkward for them but I didn't understand why since anyways they were only talking in Finnish so it didn't really seemed to me if id would be a big problem if I leave..
But sorry nosorry many things are bugging me and it just all got combined with my antisociality issues so now I'm off for the weekend.
And I also come to the point when I started to think about my life. Most certainly I'm living in a bubble that would include having friends. Well apparently my school friends are just school friends and they don't really want to hang out with me other than combined programs so I shouldn't really bother with them either. I hate hearing that 2 person gets always invited over to watch movies and stuff and I know I'll never be which is super ironic because a month ago I was at the very same table when the whole idea came up but nowadays I just hear either after they watched a movie or when they are planning on watching one.. it hurts my feelings because I don't know what have I done to get excluded.. so then again well it happens probably I'm just too annoying fine,
it still hurts though

not enough

Apparently I'm not enough. Not cool/good/interesting enough to hang out with me. So not that people even have to lie about what they are doing in order to let me know that they won't hang out with me. And so not that sitting next to me a day before one of them offering to talk through about the task we have to do and knowing that I do understand Finnish answering to the proposal person that "but its not good she wont come tomorrow with us". Well thank you if you don't wanna hang out with me it'd be much easier to tell that yeah tomorrow we're gonna hang out just the 2/3 of us and you're not invited this time no sorry. (as a matter of fact not just this time true that) And well I'm sorry but it feels awful to see on instagram or wherever that I worse nothing. And no wonder why I'm having constantly nightmares abou being bullied being excluded not wanted by anyone.
And it might be that I realm should change myself but I just can't be more interesting at least I don't know how to be. I do feel really shitty and the worst part is that I really like these people (although I'm not so sure anymore if they like me at all).
good nightmares to everyone too I'm just about to start my new one..

Bipolarisation

Today it hit me when I was in the shower thinking about last night's topic that our non existing relationship (meaning that time we spend together in the same places) can be considered as a bipolar disorder. The aforementioned topic was only a chain that leaded me to think about the people who were there yesterday talking and my person was present as well. If we just look at the simplest definition of what does bipolar mean  "Bipolar disorder is a condition in which a person has periods of depression and periods of being extremely happy or being cross or irritable." then it makes actually a lot sense how my person works. And it's awful in my case because it's not a state that you can count on when is the happy or the rude period coming at me. Well but at least that now I figured I'll try to focus on my mood more so that wheíchever state turns up next I'll be able to deal with it without feeling down for the whole day after.

sensitive biach

I know it's not myself. I mean when I got home today I was explaining myself that it's like I'm having a relationship in my mind with a person who doesn't know about that and so finally it's like if I'd be in a relationship with my other personality. I hate this other personality in this case because it makes me weak and I start having feelings and those feeling although  I can control them they are very tense and it makes it difficult to focus on other things sometimes.
I feel that sometimes I'm annoying people or just I'm not good enough for them and I'm abandoned but I don't want to be pushy and ask all the time if i can join but otherwise I feel like they wouldn't call me :/ so I don't know what to do I'm just whining all the time. I know I shouldn't but I'm human so it should mean I'm allowed to have feelings. Yes I know I don't want to have them right now though..
On the other hand I don't really thing it'd make any difference according to my situation now that I have no idea if people like or dislike me. At least if I wouldn't have started to have feeling for an other person would be better for both of us. Because we were talking and I explained the situation and the aforementioned person was totally cool with it but then it got somehow weird and like today I was ignored and got the face all the time. It felt bad really really bad.

I'm hurt. Emotionally hurt. And I'm stupid as well. The fact is that I didn't get invited to go out but obviously I could see the picture on instagram and then got to ask to tell that they're sick instead of they're freaking hangover. Well yeah I guess I'm only good for being nice. Actually it hurts really much. I should have known I'm not enough for them. It sounds like I'm whining again which is true yes I'm whining but then again this is how I feel plus it started to rain and I have to be in school in an hour.
I hope I'll be enough one day to have friends. #fuckmylife #foreveralone

Dear my life,

Lets whine a little bit more
I feel miserable because I have feelings and it annoys me. It would be so much easier if I could be just a normal psychopath without feelings I guess that would simplify my life a lot. Then again it's nice that I'm not a psychopath because then I'd cause problems and that wouldn't be nice.
So the thing is that I'm kind of really into someone whom I know is dating someone at the moment so it makes no sense to have feeling for that person. But then again I have so it's really hard do act like "hey dude" whenever we meet, And I've been thinking if I should explain myself so then it might get to a conclusion and it might be I won't feel anything after that or just that it'd be a relief for me that I let know my feelings so then I don't have to act weird anymore.
So I really don't understand this thing why I have to have feelings for someone. weird.
This was the Sunday news have a nice rest of the weekend.
T.
me

So I guess let's blog again

In the last couple of days the blogging topic came up so often that I was thinking even if it sounds like for some of you that "Well she's just blogging about her miserable life" it feels good to write.
Especially since I moved to Finland for 3.5 years at least this time.
Ok first of all I can't complain because I have some friends whom I really really like and it's nice to have them so it's good.
But I started my studies with totally new people (24 out of 30 is Finnish- superinternational-bazinga) and ever since the first day I'm crazy in my mind thinking all the time that oh will they accept me or am I gonna get excluded because I'm a foreigner or because I'm rude or too shy or whatever reason.. And my point is that every time when I get these thoughts my brain starts to yell at me all that I have to STOP thinking like that since I've been through many things. Yes well I am sorry but one you were bullied you can't just ignore your thoughts that what if it happens again?
About bullying it was finally useful to watch Britain's got talent because there was this two 12 years old guy rapping and singing based on one of them's own experience an ANTI-bullying song. And I think this song can be really eye opening for everyone.
It was however really nice during the weekend I was at one of my classmate's place with 8 other classmates and I really enjoyed that I could go somewhere. And then yesterday we ended up at an other classmate's place which was also really nice.
But in the meantime I'm still worried if I'm gonna get excluded because of whatever reason. Well I hope not. I really do. It's hard because I'm a "foreigner" and they mostly speak Finnish with each other and my Finnish skills are limited so sometimes I have to interrupt them and ask them to speak English which I guess can be annoying. Well I'm not sorry for that because I came to an international program and I'm doing my best.
And the fact is that I'm already liking my classmates and that's why I really hope they won't hate me.

Zürich for the twenty somethingst time

So we arrived yesterday evening to Zürich and it was raining like.. well like it was raining.
Finally today in the afternoon it stopped so we went to the center to take a walk (4 hours long -can't feel my legs anymore). And though we've seen the city a thousand times we could still discover (at least me) some new features of it. For example the penises craved out of crystals (see below the pictures) and some Portuguese university students singing and dancing which was also fun. Otherwise the city is the same, by the lake there was some kind of marathon like running going on but nothing special except that.
Probably tomorrow we'll go to Winterthur- I guess I have never been there before but it might be that I was just too young to remember.

National nation

Tomorrow in Hungary we're going to have the National Elections. Actually I should have written National Election because it looks like if someone won't vote for the now ruling party then his/her vote will be discharged. Anyhow I'll go tomorrow and try to act against what's going on now and I don't want to use the  slogan "National Mourning"after Sunday.
I was just thinking about that since only a miracle can overthrow the Fidesz party, so let's just take a look at how National the country is going to be. (For those who are not familiar with this fact, about a year ago in Hungary tobacco can ONLY sold in the National Tobacco Shops that are owned mostly by Fidesz related entrepreneurs) *
*=Starting now, sarcasm is used predominantly.
So after the election a couple of things are going to be changed like:
1. Alcohol can be sold only in National Alcohol Shops.
2.There will be only one newspaper : National Newspaper
3.There'll be once a month obligatory National Soccer Games to visit.
4.National Sexshop is the only place to buy condom or any other National accessory.
5.The National News is going to be obligatory for everyone at 7pm to watch on the National Television.
6. The National Cockade (tricolor) must be worn everyday even on pajamas.
7. There'll be every year an National Rezsi/Energy price Reduction Day (Nemzeti Rezsicsökkentés Nap).
8. The National Peace March is going to take one National Week in National colored clothing.
9. Only the National Language is allowed to be spoken.
10. The dirty words must be National Dirty Words, such as 'A nemzeti k^rvanyád'. (You National Motherf^cker) or Nemzeti b+ (National Fuckyou)..

Such a lovely country, please come and visit National Hungary.
To cross the country you must have clothes in red, white and green! with a basic knowledge of the Hungarian history especially Trianon!

It was quite a while when I made my last post but to be honest I wasn't really in the mood to write. Plenty of interesting stories happened so now I can present a few out of them.
Well first of all 2013 Christmas some presents, visiting family members finishing research papers, not celebrating the end of the year. Then came 2014. nothing special still finishing the research papers, then finally the 1st semester was over. So I had almost 3 weeks of holidays which I spent at home and I applied to Helsinki for social services and nursing so I started to study for the entrance exams. Of course I could meet with my friends , unfortunately not all of them but well the thing is when someone tells me that she'll let me know when we could meet then I'm so not gonna ask her When Where Why-you're-not-telling-me-a-thing.. so now I'm back in Pécs an still no news from her.. Last weekend we were at my cousins' and were killing 2 pigs. Well that was a bit more than complicated it's always funny and frustrating at the same time when the whole big family and others have totally different ideas of one thing and they try to force their own ideas on the others so finally a great chaos is formed and ain't nobody knows what to do or who to hit.
Well the last week was awful except that my sister came to visit me during the weekend. The (hopefully) last semester started for me and it's horrible. I can say out of the 7 classes and 2 research papers I can pick none that I enjoy.. So I hope this week it'll be somewhat better because it's just making my nerves explode.